Seeking Mediation Quorum Amidst Delicate Egos

Mediation quorum, a prerequisite element in commencing mediation, often stands at the crossroads, an impasse situation even before mediation begins.

One cause of not acquiring mediation quorum is when, in the past, there was a rush to express dissatisfaction. This rush can indeed lead to unexpected turns, adding layers of complexity to an already emotionally-charged process.

In the fabric of human emotions, small hurts can linger, leaving lasting scars that cloud the path toward resolution.

Then what happens is…

• Choosing mediation is a step toward healing, yet it can sometimes be misunderstood.

• The decision to engage in mediation may be veiled with assumptions, creating a barrier to open dialogue.

• Some may perceive attending mediation as a form of surrender, fearing that acknowledging the need for resolution means giving in.

• This misconception can hinder the process, as individuals may carry the weight of past hurts, making it challenging to approach mediation with an open mind.

But wait here, do you even agree with me when I say that the timing and environment for expressing dissatisfaction play essential roles in shaping the course of conflict resolution?

I am thinking… that if initial expressions took place in a friendly setting, there might have been an opportunity for a conversation to unfold naturally. No? But way easier said than done. Possibly, I am thinking imaginarily.

I can say with sureness that, the one who can accept the opportunity to converse even after being hurt from the initial hostile expressions could only be a soul of a higher degree having the siddhi of detachment towards feelings, emotions, and expressions.

By the time a situation even arrives at the stage of mediation, so many loud or silent quarrels have happened that the clouded perception following unresolved issues can obstruct the potential for even a general dialogue, let alone constructive dialogue.

But I also think – In addressing these challenges, fostering an atmosphere of understanding and dispelling misconceptions is crucial. Yes But HOW?

One exception to everything written could be when the one expressing dissatisfaction and now seeking mediation starts with offering an apology.

Yes, My rescue in this situation would be – An Apology!

Just like don’t underestimate the power of a common man (aam-aadmi)… here don’t underestimate the power of a common apology (aam-apology).

The power of an apology holds transformative potential.

But, hello!

It is essential to recognize, for the person issuing this apology, that an apology doesn’t diminish the existence of their dissatisfaction; rather, it acknowledges the importance of expressing oneself respectfully.

This apology act, as difficult as or even more difficult than agreeing to attend mediation, signals a willingness to mend and invites the other party for a cordial talk.

Note: Apologizing here doesn’t erase dissatisfaction but paves the way for constructive dialogue, ensuring that expressions are not hurtful. Because sometimes, emotions take over, and in those moments, an apology could become the bridge to be considerate.

But wait a minute. If you were in the shoes of the person who had high expectations, is now disappointed, and has expressed dissatisfaction, would you be convinced to issue an apology? 🙂 This would be a reality test (for you, for me, and for everyone in this situation ever, for the one issuing the apology, and for the one receiving the apology). Or now that an apology is issued, will you, miss queen, say yes to contribute to the mediation quorum so that mediation can commence?

Thank you 🙂 for reading! Your time is precious, but please do let me know if this writing was enjoyable.